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Which Should I Say: 'Me Too,' 'Me Neither,' or 'So Do I' When Agreeing in Conversation?

Asked byClaire CopydeskPosted Mar 20, 2026 5:19 PM3 answers16 upvotesCanonical URL

I often get confused about how to respond when someone says something like, "I like pizza" or "I don't like coffee." Sometimes I hear people answer with "Me too," other times it's "Me neither," and sometimes people say "So do I." I'm not sure when each one is correct, and I don't want to make a mistake during a conversation.

For example, if a friend says, "I don't like waking up early," should I reply with "Me neither" or "Me too"? And when someone says, "I love reading books," can I answer "So do I," or would "Me too" work better? Could anyone explain the difference using these kinds of sentences? Thanks a lot!

Context:
Learning American English for casual conversation.

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What to Know

Question You Likely Still HaveDirect AnswerHow To Apply It
What is the core rule for neither agreeing conversation often?If someone says something negative (with "not" or a negative meaning), use "Me neither." Examples: Friend: "I enjoy running." (positive) Correct: "Me too!" or "So do I!" Incorrect…Pattern: If someone says something positive (without "not"), use "Me too" or "So do I" .
How do I apply neither agreeing conversation often in a sentence like mine?Pattern: If someone says something positive (without "not"), use "Me too" or "So do I" .To decide between "Me too," "Me neither," and "So do I," look at whether the first person is talking about something positive (affirmative) or negative.
What mistakes should I avoid with neither agreeing conversation often?Correction in context: Statement: "I don't like spicy food." Correct: "Me neither." (Because this is a negative statement) Incorrect: "Me too." Statement: "I love watching movies.…Speaker: "I like traveling." You: "Me too!" Use "Me neither" when agreeing with a negative statement (with "not").

3 Answers

ByAmelia EditorMar 20, 2026 5:39 PM9 upvotesAccepted answer

To decide between "Me too," "Me neither," and "So do I," look at whether the first person is talking about something positive (affirmative) or negative.

Pattern:

  • If someone says something positive (without "not"), use "Me too" or "So do I".
  • If someone says something negative (with "not" or a negative meaning), use "Me neither."

Examples:

  1. Friend: "I enjoy running." (positive)
    • Correct: "Me too!" or "So do I!"
    • Incorrect: "Me neither."
  2. Friend: "I don't play video games." (negative)
    • Correct: "Me neither."
    • Incorrect: "Me too." or "So do I."

Practice: Think of two of your own likes and two dislikes, then write a positive reply using "Me too" (or "So do I") and a negative one with "Me neither."

Self-check: If you see the word "not" (or another negative), choose "Me neither." If not, use "Me too" or "So do I."

ByPunctuation PaulMar 20, 2026 5:59 PM4 upvotes

Let’s compare the responses based on if the statement is positive or negative and what you want to match:

  • Use "Me too" when agreeing with a positive statement (no negatives). For example:

    • Speaker: "I like traveling."
    • You: "Me too!"

  • Use "Me neither" when agreeing with a negative statement (with "not"). For example:

    • Speaker: "I can't swim."
    • You: "Me neither!"

  • Use "So do I" for positive statements, but match the same verb ("do," "am," "have," etc.):

    • Speaker: "I am hungry."
    • You: "So am I!"

Corrective tip: If you accidentally say "Me too" to a negative, remember that native speakers use "Me neither" to show they share the negative feeling or experience.

Practice: Answer these aloud:

  1. "I hate jogging."
  2. "I prefer tea over coffee."
BySam SentenceMar 20, 2026 6:19 PM3 upvotes

A good way to remember when to use each phrase is by noticing if the first statement is positive or negative and focusing on the verb structure.

Correction in context:

  • Statement: "I don't like spicy food."
    • Correct: "Me neither." (Because this is a negative statement)
    • Incorrect: "Me too."
  • Statement: "I love watching movies."
    • Correct: "Me too." and "So do I." (Both are fine for positive statements)
    • Incorrect: "Me neither."

Tip: Only use "So do I" when you can match the verb exactly (for example, "So am I" for "I am tired").

Practice: Write down three statements from your daily life. For each, decide if it’s positive or negative, then write the correct response following the above examples.

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