Confused about using 'myself' or 'me' in sentences like 'I did it myself'—help!
I'm having trouble figuring out when I'm supposed to use reflexive pronouns like "myself" and "yourself" instead of just saying "me" or "you." For example, I often hear people say things like "I did it myself," but sometimes I see sentences like "He talked to himself" or "Please help yourself."
Lately, I wrote a story and wasn't sure whether to write "I fixed the computer myself" or just "I fixed the computer." Also, is it correct to say "You can contact myself if you have questions" or should it be "You can contact me"? I don't want my sentences to sound strange. Can someone explain when to use these words?
Context:
I'm studying American English for business communication.
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3 Answers
To decide between 'me' and 'myself,' pay attention to the patterns of reflexive pronoun use. Use a reflexive pronoun (myself, yourself, etc.) when the subject and the object in the sentence refer to the same person, or when you want to emphasize that someone did something alone.
Pattern 1: Reflexive for Emphasis
- "I managed the presentation myself." (Emphasis: No one helped me.)
Pattern 2: Reflexive as Object = Subject
- "She introduced herself." (She and herself are the same person.)
Pattern 3: Regular Object Pronoun
- "You can contact me if you have questions." ('Me' is the object; the subject is someone else.)
Non-standard Usage (to avoid):
- "You can contact myself." ❌ (should be 'me')
Practice Tip:
Identify the subject and the object in your sentence. If they are the same person, use the reflexive pronoun. If they are not, use 'me' or the usual object pronoun.
Self-check:
Try these: "She congratulated __ on the award." (herself)
"Please call __ with updates." (me)
It's common to mix up 'myself' and 'me.' Let's compare them side by side:
1. Use 'myself' for actions you do to yourself, or to add emphasis.
- "I made the reservation myself." (Emphasizing that it was you, not someone else.)
- "He taught himself Spanish." (The subject 'he' acts on 'himself.')
2. Use 'me' as a regular object when the subject is someone else.
- "Please email me for details." (Subject could be 'you' or 'someone,' object is 'me.')
- "Can you help me with this report?"
Wrong usage to avoid:
- "You can email myself for assistance." ❌
Practice Suggestion:
Write two sentences about your work: one where you do something alone (use 'myself'), and one where someone else does something to/for you (use 'me').
Good question! Many English learners overuse 'myself.'
Correct forms:
- 'I fixed the computer myself.' (You did the fixing—emphasis or meaning you worked alone.)
- 'I fixed the computer.' (States the action, no emphasis on who did it.)
- 'You can contact me.' (Standard phrasing: 'me' is the correct object.)
Incorrect form (very common error):
- 'You can contact myself.' ❌ ('Myself' should NEVER be the object of another person's action.)
Quick Check:
If you can replace 'myself' with 'me,' it's probably wrong unless you're emphasizing that you did something alone. Try rephrasing your sentence both ways to see which makes sense.
Practice:
Review your emails or business messages and ask: Did I use 'myself' only for emphasis, or where I was both the 'doer' and 'receiver' of the action? If not, replace it with 'me.'
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